Ready to face or endure danger or pain; showing courage.
Gird your loins mommas. I’m going to get real.
I’ve never categorized myself as brave. I have never been one to take risks, especially if the words “danger” or “pain” are involved. If there is any chance of an activity landing me in the ER, I’ll take a pass. I like the comfort of the known. The peace of routine and ritual. Even though you will not find me lining up to skydive, I didn’t classify myself as fearful. That is, until I became a parent.
Fear: /’fir/ noun
An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, painful, or threatening.
I’ve shared before about my fear during my pregnancy, but as it turns out, parenting is the real fear battlefield. Our babies come to us so tiny, so vulnerable and we’re their main line of defense. Hello, responsibility.
Me and Google hit it off famously during my son’s first few months, it was just like what my fellow contributor described here. Fear can lead you to some interesting online searches to say the least, but that was really on the tip of the iceberg. I found myself fearful of him being sick, fearful of him falling and injuring himself, fearful I wasn’t doing motherhood right, and basic fear of the unknown.
I don’t know if we’re parenting in a scarier world than our parents, or if it’s just the 24 hour news stream and constant information at our fingertips that makes it seem that way. Bottom line, the world is a scary place and we are charged with raising our children to eventually grow up and walk out into that world all on their own. Scary indeed.
I know I don’t want to be a fearful parent because that fear will find it’s way onto my son and make him fearful and timid. I want him to find a way to explore the world, test his limits, and be curious and courageous. I don’t want my hang-ups to become his. So how exactly do we do this parenting thing without being fearful? How do we raise independent and brave boys and girls?
Truth time: I HAVE NO FREAKING CLUE.
But fear not (see what I did there?) I have found some resources with much more know-how to help us along. I reached out to LEGIT professionals with degrees in child psychology, because I am SO not the one to be giving advice on this topic. I’m right here, pen in hand feverishly taking notes, mommas.
Susie Davis is a local Austin mom, blogger, author, speaker and co-founder of Austin Christian Fellowship. As a witness to one of the earliest school shootings in our nation, Susie faced years of paralyzing fear and an intense distrust of God. In her book, Unafraid, she reveals how “God relentlessly pursued me and, over time, broke my fear addiction.” If you are coming to grips with your fear and how it impacts your life, family, and joy, Susie’s book is an incredible resource.
I’ve known Vicki Courtney for over 10 years and just her experience raising 3 awesome kids who grew up and flew the nest has me knocking down her door for advice. In addition,Vicki is a national speaker and the best-selling author of numerous books including 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter; 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son; and her newest release, Rest Assured: A Recovery Plan for Weary Souls. Her books and her ministry are a fantastic tool for parents and women!
I’m navigating these waters right alongside you and would love your feedback and to hear your stories of triumph over fear, and brave parenting tactics!