Hello Mommas! Right now my husband and I are in the thick of trying to decide whether or not our three boys should share a room! The three of them (1st grade, PreK, and almost three years old) currently all sleep in the same room, but we are about to move; we figure if we are going to change things up, now is a good time. We know that in many cases, a big house solves this issue on its own, but we’ve decided to sacrifice the luxury of a very large house in favor of a neighborhood that we love.
So, we’ve been going back and forth: to share or not to share? Here are some of our thoughts in the decision making-process:
On one hand, by consolidating, there would be more rooms available in the house for guests, an office, a playroom, etc. However, the space they share will be more crowded.
If the boys share, they will learn to live with someone else and hopefully won’t get accustomed to selfish behavior. On the other hand, when they share, they keep each other from falling asleep and wake each other up too early. If someone has a bad dream or wakes up sick, we run the risk of waking the whole house up in the middle of the night. Please, no.
On one hand, bedtime is a great parent-child bonding time. If the kids are separate, we are more likely to hear what’s really going on in their hearts and worlds. Then again, tucking three kids into bed separately? Heaven help me.
Right now, room-sharing creates a great bond between the three of them. Read, there are lots of shenanigans when they should be sleeping. But, will they need their own space as they get older? Perhaps the ability to retreat to their own space would be healthier for them and foster independence? Perhaps if they were separate genders or if there was a larger age difference, this would work itself out on its own. But three of the same gender, really close in age? That’s a tough-er cookie.