Ok friends, here we go. The big breast – well in my case now very small – debate. I actually don’t want to debate any of you, I am on 4 hours of sleep and staring down the barrel of a mile long to-do list – I don’t have the mental capacity to go there. Not now, not ever really. #momlife
I do however, want to have a regular ol’ convo about what feels like the hottest topic of all mom topics – breastfeeding. I want those of you mamas out there who choose not to breastfeed, or are even forced into bottle feeding due to unforeseen circumstances, to feel more comfortable about your situation. And let me preface all of this by saying I am not a doctor, and I’m not pretending to be. I am just an Austin-living 30-something keeping it real and talking about a topic no one wants to bring light to.
I chose to formula feed and not to breastfeed long before I was even pregnant. I know myself best, like you know yourself best. And I knew I didn’t want any extra stressors present when bringing a baby into this world. I wanted her to feel comfortable in her environment. I wanted her to feel safe and at ease. I knew that lack of sleep + the potential of a baby not latching properly or me not producing enough milk would create a very hostile environment for the entire family. And that is not how I wanted to introduce my child to this world. So for me it was decided, and it was a very firm decision: Our baby would be a formula baby.
Ironically, I am a few steps away from being a full blown granola when it comes to what I put into my body. We don’t eat food out of boxes, no preservatives, everything is organic…blah, blah, blah you get the point. So when I decided I wasn’t going to breastfeed, I made an extra effort while I was pregnant to feed my baby only the best. I took supplements, drank bone broth, ate only organic and quite obviously took my prenatals. That little one only got the best of the best for 9, let’s be real, 10 straight months.
I researched formula after formula to find the cleanest of clean recipes out there. A lot of them are full of junk I can’t pronounce – I did not want my baby anywhere near that stuff. We ended up on Nature’s One and were happy with it. Had I done it over again, I would have used HIPP (you need to import from Europe), which is the closest to breast milk but I didn’t stumble upon this brand until well after the bottle stage.
Just like it is the mama’s decision to breastfeed, it was my decision not to do so. I believe we should respect each others’ decisions regardless of what it is and move on. You do you and I’ll do me. For those mamas out there that did breastfeed and ate loads of processed junk food and refined sugars while pregnant and post-partum, what makes that better than formula feeding? I fed my little one only the best of the best for 10 months and once she was born, fed her what I found to be the closest to breast milk I could find. And guess what? Maximara is a happy and very healthy little one. She walked at 9.5 months, only cried when she is hungry or tired and didn’t have a sick visit until she was 11 months old.
Again, I don’t want this post to become a debate, so if you have anything negative to say in the comments please save your energy. I want this to help the other mamas out there that are not breastfeeding to feel more comfortable with their decision. Unfortunately you will get some push-back from your doctor, hospital staff, friends/family, etc. but feel comfort in knowing you and your little one will come out on the other end happier together. And if you want to breastfeed but it’s not working, it is not the end of the world. There are worse problems to have. Make sure you have a formula back up ready to go just in case you can’t produce or your baby isn’t latching properly. There is nothing worse than the cries of a hungry baby. Just be prepared.
If you have any questions about drying up your milk, etc. feel free to ask. I’m the expert on frozen cabbage leaves and simultaneously wearing 4 sports bras.